Andrew Sullivan pointed to this comment by Susan Sontag from a May 2000 Guardian piece:
It's simple, she says. "As I've become less attractive to men, so I've found myself more with women. It's what happens. Ask any woman my age. More women come on to you than men. And women are fantastic. Around 40, women blossom. Women are a work-in-progress. Men burn out."
My experience hints it's true...er, the women blossom part!
Sullivan also pointed to this Bay Windows piece by Michael Bronski and this explanation by the New York Times on why it didn't note Sontag's lesbianism in her obituary. SoVo Blog notes others omitted it too and later revisited the subject again here.
